We aren’t created to be independent. Or so I personally believe.
As humans we are better suited for inter-dependence, and I, as a mom of many look forward to seeing how that plays out in our lives as our kids grow and develop their adult life, with or without partners and children.
We are part of traveling family communities online thanks to FB! Today’s technology changes so much, bringing those from afar into our living rooms and lives. I appreciate that, to connect with people who have also left the rat race for a simpler life with their kids in tow.
Establishing one’s business online leads you into a whole ‘nother community of people to connect with, to learn and earn with.
Not all communities have equal value, nor of the same calibre. One needs to pick and choose.
I’ve been poking around a few communities over the past year, looking for one that we felt we could work with. Something with a strong leadership, that attracted people with integrity.
A few months back I stumbled into The SFM community and decided that it seemed a good fit for us. We delved deeper and deeper and found we liked it the more we dug.
So, we decided we might as well jump right in and go meet them in person! And that’s exactly what we did this past Father’s Day weekend. With NO KIDS!!
Everette and I flew to Newark (that always sounds funny to me, like somebody with an accent pronouncing New York!) late Friday night. This was most certainly not a romantic and relaxing weekend away, although it was peppered with some enjoyable down time. But for the most part time was tight, the mind was in perpetual motion and activity and….we’ve got some sleeping to catch up on!
Travel from Guadalajara to Newark was the perfect time for my beloved activity of reading. I was really looking forward to that uninterrupted time.
I was able to read all of Kisses from Katie, about a young girl from Tennesee giving her life, basically, to the people of Uganda, and particularly to the children, including the 14 children this 20-something woman has fostered and eventually adopted. As a single parent. It’s unashamedly written from a Christian perspective, but I was moved by her simple love for a people and acceptance of a life so different from the comfortable one she could have had back in the USA. She chose to identify with that community of people and give her all.
Everette brought along Richard Branson’s Screw It, Let’s Do It and got that finished, too, so he’s passed it on to me. Branson is a fascinating person but I have yet to read any of his books. This will be my first one.
We arrived in Newark after 11pm, so after getting our rental SUV it was already late. Figuring out how to get that none-key starter going, that was a hurdle we hadn’t expected. I should have been recording those puzzling moments when two 50+ year old adults are befuddled by the simple act of trying to get a vehicle started. I mean, how hard can it be? I know the confusion started the moment we discovered there was no place to put the key….and that actually we weren’t even in the possession of a key. Well, not like keys used to be. Obviously for some of us….its harder than we imagined! Good thing we could read when the dash told us to step on the brake.
One doesn’t know what to expect when you book everything online. So I admit, I was disappointed on my first approach to our hotel suite in Tinton Falls. I had stayed in the car while Everette signed us in at the front desk, and I guess there hadn’t been anything to put him off. But our suite was at the back of the hotel, a different section thru a whole other entrance. Paint peeling, rips in old indoor/outdoor carpet, glass windows looking gross. At least the interior garden looked decent.
I was relieved when we opened the door to 311. Not shabby at all. I could relax now, our money wasn’t all spent on a dump!
So, we crawled into bed about 1am, with those crisp white sheets I want to have an affair with. That is the luxury I dream about when I’m going away to stay in a hotel. Big king-size bed with a down quilt, and an abundance of pillows to fall into. Ahhh, simplicity I love.
Our New Community
Connection with the SFM community started at 8:15am in Red Bank at the Oyster Point Hotel. With a beautiful display of breakfast treats of fresh fruits, chocolate chip muffins, pastries and organic yogurts, I wished I hadn’t eaten the continental breakfast back at our hotel. I had thought this was just going to be coffee and tea, but instead this was the first indication that SFM does things differently; with class.
We were all welcomed by Stuart Ross and Jay Kubassek themselves, both down to Earth men with delightful and entertaining personalities. They spoke casually and very interactively with the rest of us present. They had material they wanted to go over, but they certainly provided an environment for others to share experiences & teaching tips. Right away you could tell this was community, everybody helping and learning together.
We met plenty of interesting people who originated from all around the world (Nigeria, New Zealand, Thailand, Israel & Sweden, that I can recall) but that mostly hail now from the United Kingdom, Canada and the United States. Great variety.
Jan (pic to the right) is living in Monterrey, Mexico…practically our neighbor! And Swedish, to boot!! (Everette’s ancestors are from Sweden). Now maybe we have somebody to visit on our next border run?
Wesley has been focusing as a full-time college student and is now ready to take his SFM business to a new height.
Ilan and his brother Guy are the men behind SatoriPrime and do a lot of the marketing training for SFM. I listen to them every week so it was nice to meet at least one of them in person. We had a pleasant visit with him and his wife in the evening, and he’s on top of his game for sure. I had hardly said a sentence regarding our dreams and he was checking me on my mindset! Our words are powerful, and he called me on it…in a pleasant enough but firm manner. Thanks, Ilan.
After an incredible buffet lunch with a view over the water & a chance to connect with more people, we finished the formal training shortly after 4pm and moved casually down to the hotel’s bar where there was a private room for the SFMers with appetizers, cash bar, and draws/prizes. Jay attempted to launch his career as a comedian, and because of or in spite of Jay there were lots of laughs! This provided more opportunity to connect & brainstorm with people and even meet some of the spouses that came to socialize but weren’t at the days’ meetings.
I appreciated those that shared nuggets with us. I don’t know all of Everette’s conversations, but I know I appreciated what Oliver from Montreal shared with me, and Tal from Toronto.
I connected with Audrey (in the lower right pic) who came from OK with her homeschooled son, Jacob, who chose to come to Momentum Day as his Graduation event!! Smart guy, building a business he can design and control rather than spending money for some letters after his name and then go looking for a J.O.B. so he can be bossed around. This is a career-changer.
It can be difficult to set aside time/money to invest in your own self-development (a biggie within the SFM community) and go to seminars, workshops, conventions. As a mom of many I have always found it difficult to leave my kids for a weekend, even when I knew I would have a fantastic time away. I admit its much nicer now that our youngest is 8yo (well, officially at the end of this week) and we have not only responsible teens here to manage the place, but the community here at the hotel. We know our kids will be helped if there was an emergency.
This was a stretch for Everette and I to attend this SFM Momentum Day in New Jersey; it was expensive (quick travel can be), time consuming, tiring, and ….worth it!
Next Momentum is in London, then Australia. I want to go meet more of the community, network with others, glean from their knowledge and experience. There’s so much value in SFM…like a University education. I think Jacob made an excellent choice.