Fishing New Jersey’s Sea Bright & How Engaging Strangers Makes Our Day

I started fishing with my dad but I always expected him to thread that worm (or portion of) onto my hook.  We would cast while Mom and my youngest brother Dave would build the fire and start supper in case Dad and I didn’t bring supper home (we rarely did!)  Then I carried on a bit with Everette once we married, but I eventually developed the unique talent of getting my hook snagged on sunken branches in river bends so Everette would busy himself at retrieval and end up with multiples of that which I lost.  We both had fun!


Everette has always enjoyed fishing.  As a kid he fished in the streams around Lake Cowichan on Vancouver Island, and I’m sure he spent time fishing in northern BC as a young adult along with all his hunting.  He went through a period of time when our two eldest girls were still small where he would go fly fishing, or take our girls jigging at the marina.  And I think it was the summer between babies 3 & 4 that he spent basically the entire summer helping out a friend on his shrimp boat.  Progressively far less fishing has taken place for my man since the introduction of the last 7 kids.  Where does all the time go?

It was Father’s Day this past weekend, and it found Everette stuck with me and the absence of his nine children.  How did that happen?

We spent the weekend at Tinton Falls & Red Bank, New Jersey with another 50 or so people at a conference, and then spent the Sunday at Sea Bright walking the beach….until we stumbled upon 3 guys fishing from the shore.  Of course, Everette had to investigate into what they fished for here.

Friendly Nick-with-that-New-Jersey-accent let Everette reel them in, and in 4 catches Everette got a Triple-Hitter.

The first catch we were told was a Sea Robin Fish.  Never heard of it before but it was totally cool, as you saw in the video.  With fins spread out one could imagine it flying through the water (if not the sky).  And using those feelers to crawl across the bottom of the ocean.  Unfortunately we didn’t hear it grunting.  Maybe next time!



Then it was time for some little sharks.  Called by various names, I think Nick called them mud sharks but out west we call them dogfish.  Certainly sharks, though these were just in small packages.

The third participant in the Three-Hitter was a Skate ray which was  never touched but always handled at a distance and with tools.  When Nick was returning him/her to the ocean by its tail, the way it arched reminded me of an overgrown scorpion.  Keep away!!

We were so thankful to Nick for sharing his enthusiasm and gear to make it a great Father’s Day for Everette doing one of his all-time favorite things to do.  And Nick declared that we made his day special, too.

You know, whenever people ask our kids about what their favorite part is about our big family traveling, the majority of our kids usually say “It’s the people we meet!”  And I totally concur with that.  If it hadn’t been for the interaction between Everette and Nick along the water’s edge, our day at the beach would have just been another day.  Sure, we had interacted a bit with a few other people on our walk, but it was more of a sharing of special moments with Nick.  We aren’t likely to ever see Nick again….but in a sense he touched our hearts.  He gave a stranger control over his catch and his fishing gear.  He poured out his knowledge and love for the sport in enthusiastic ways while we gobbled it up.  He spoke of his family he was anticipating having Father’s Day lunch with and had to soon run off to meet, but he took time out to connect with us.  He seemed very present in the moment, totally embracing the interaction with us.

That’s what we love about traveling.  Far and above the beauty of natural surroundings, more than the ethnic cuisine, more than investigating the businesses of the town or city, its the local people who make (or break) our visit rewarding.  The ones who aren’t so rushed that they stop to interact with us, telling us about their craft, or their boat, or their children, or their business.

These are the people that jump out at me, the ones who make my travels so enjoyable.

But makes me ponder….what about how we treat others?  Are we engaging with strangers whether they are new to our area or not?  Do we take a few moments to devout to them, to let them know that we appreciate connecting with them today?  Do we take the opportunity to encourage them, to guide them to somewhere they wouldn’t otherwise have known about?  Do we instruct them on how to reach the hidden waterfalls, or discover that great local restaurant they would otherwise not stumble upon?

Nick had his buddies there and could easily have brushed us off.  He had told his wife he’d be home by 11 to go for lunch and because of us he was running late (just a bit).  I trust that she’s as engaging and caring a person with strangers as Nick is, that she will forgive these traveling Canadians who interrupted her husbands morning of fishing and made him late.

Because, although we had a fantastic time the previous day with The SFM people at Momentum Day, it was really Nick letting Everette go fishing that painted a great picture in our minds of the people of New Jersey and endeared us to this place.

I must remember that most people are absolutely wonderful and good.  The are like Nick.  And don’t let the few bad apples ruin the whole crate.

Travel to Community: Momentum Day with SFM

We aren’t created to be independent.  Or so I personally believe.

As humans we are better suited for inter-dependence, and I, as a mom of many look forward to seeing how that plays out in our lives as our kids grow and develop their adult life, with or without partners and children.

We are part of traveling family communities online thanks to FB!  Today’s technology changes so much, bringing those from afar into our living rooms and lives.  I appreciate that, to connect with people who have also left the rat race for a simpler life with their kids in tow.

Establishing one’s business online leads you into a whole ‘nother community of people to connect with, to learn and earn with.

Not all communities have equal value, nor of the same calibre.  One needs to pick and choose.

I’ve been poking around a few communities over the past year, looking for one that we felt we could work with.  Something with a strong leadership, that attracted people with integrity.

A few months back I stumbled into The SFM community and decided that it seemed a good fit for us.  We delved deeper and deeper and found we liked it the more we dug.

So, we decided we might as well jump right in and go meet them in person!   And that’s exactly what we did this past Father’s Day weekend. With NO KIDS!!

Our Travels

Everette and I flew to Newark (that always sounds funny to me, like somebody with an accent pronouncing New York!) late Friday night.  This was most certainly not a romantic and relaxing weekend away, although it was peppered with some enjoyable down time.  But for the most part time was tight, the mind was in perpetual motion and activity and….we’ve got some sleeping to catch up on!

Richard Branson

Travel from Guadalajara to Newark was the perfect time for my beloved activity of reading. I was really looking forward to that uninterrupted time.

I was able to read all of Kisses from Katie, about a young girl from Tennesee giving her life, basically, to the people of Uganda, and particularly to the children, including the 14 children this 20-something woman has fostered and eventually adopted.  As a single parent.  It’s unashamedly written from a Christian perspective, but I was moved by her simple love for a people and acceptance of a life so different from the comfortable one she could have had back in the USA.  She chose to identify with that community of people and give her all.

Everette brought along Richard Branson’s Screw It, Let’s Do It and got that finished, too, so he’s passed it on to me.  Branson is a fascinating person but I have yet to read any of his books.  This will be my first one.


We arrived in Newark after 11pm, so after getting our rental SUV it was already late. Figuring out how to get that none-key starter going, that was a hurdle we hadn’t expected.  I should have been recording those puzzling moments when two 50+ year old adults are befuddled by the simple act of trying to get a vehicle started.  I mean, how hard can it be?  I know the confusion started the moment we discovered there was no place to put the key….and that actually we weren’t even in the possession of a key.  Well, not like keys used to be.  Obviously for some of us….its harder than we imagined!  Good thing we could read when the dash told us to step on the brake.

Our Hotel

One doesn’t know what to expect when you book everything online.  So I admit, I was disappointed on my first approach to our hotel suite in Tinton Falls.  I had stayed in the car while Everette signed us in at the front desk, and I guess there hadn’t been anything to put him off.  But our suite was at the back of the hotel, a different section thru a whole other entrance.  Paint peeling, rips in old indoor/outdoor carpet, glass windows looking gross.  At least the interior garden looked decent.Comfort-Inn-New-Jersey-Laptop_Lifestyle

I was relieved when we opened the door to 311.  Not shabby at all.  I could relax now, our money wasn’t all spent on a dump!

So, we crawled into bed about 1am, with those crisp white sheets I want to have an affair with.  That is the luxury I dream about when I’m going away to stay in a hotel.  Big king-size bed with a down quilt, and an abundance of pillows to fall into.  Ahhh, simplicity I love.

Our New Community

Connection with the SFM community started at 8:15am in Red Bank at the Oyster Point Hotel.  With a beautiful display of breakfast treats of fresh fruits, chocolate chip muffins, pastries and organic yogurts, I wished I hadn’t eaten the continental breakfast back at our hotel.  I had thought this was just going to be coffee and tea, but instead this was the first indication that SFM does things differently; with class.


We were all welcomed by Stuart Ross and Jay Kubassek themselves, both down to Earth men with delightful and entertaining personalities.  They spoke casually and very interactively with theSix-Figure-Mentors-SFM-Momentum-Day rest of us present.  They had material they wanted to go over, but they certainly provided an environment for others to share experiences & teaching tips.  Right away you could tell this was community, everybody helping and learning together.

The People

We met plenty of interesting people who originated from all around the world (Nigeria, New Zealand, Thailand, Israel & Sweden, that I can recall) but that mostly hail now from the United Kingdom, Canada and the United States.  Great variety.


Jan (pic to the right) is living in Monterrey, Mexico…practically our neighbor!  And Swedish, to boot!!  (Everette’s ancestors are from Sweden).  Now maybe we have somebody to visit on our next border run?

Wesley has been focusing as a full-time college student and is now ready to take his SFM business to a new height.

Ilan and his brother Guy are the men behind SatoriPrime and do a lot of the marketing training for SFM.  I listen to them every week so it was nice to meet at least one of them in person.  We had a pleasant visit with him and his wife in the evening, and he’s on top of his game for sure.  I had hardly said a sentence regarding our dreams and he was checking me on my mindset!  Our words are powerful, and he called me on it…in a pleasant enough but firm manner.  Thanks, Ilan.


After an incredible buffet lunch with a view over the water & a chance to connect with more people, we finished the formal training shortly after 4pm and moved casually down to the hotel’s bar where there was a private room for the SFMers with appetizers, cash bar, and draws/prizes.  Jay attempted to launch his career as a comedian, and because of or in spite of Jay there were lots of laughs!  This provided more opportunity to connect & brainstorm with people and even meet some of the spouses that came to socialize but weren’t at the days’ meetings.


I appreciated those that shared nuggets with us.  I don’t know all of Everette’s conversations, but I know I appreciated what Oliver from Montreal shared with me, and Tal from Toronto.

I connected with Audrey (in the lower right pic) who came from OK with her homeschooled son, Jacob, who chose to come to Momentum Day as his Graduation event!!  Smart guy, building a business he can design and control rather than spending money for some letters after his name and then go looking for a J.O.B. so he can be bossed around.  This is a career-changer.

It can be difficult to set aside time/money to invest in your own self-development (a biggie within the SFM community) and go to seminars, workshops, conventions.  As a mom of many I have always found it difficult to leave my kids for a weekend, even when I knew I would have a fantastic time away.  I admit its much nicer now that our youngest is 8yo (well, officially at the end of this week) and we have not only responsible teens here to manage the place, but the community here at the hotel.  We know our kids will be helped if there was an emergency.

This was a stretch for Everette and I to attend this SFM Momentum Day in New Jersey; it was expensive (quick travel can be), time consuming, tiring, and ….worth it!

Next Momentum is in London, then Australia.  I want to go meet more of the community, network with others, glean from their knowledge and experience.  There’s so much value in SFM…like a University education.  I think Jacob made an excellent choice.













Beautiful British Columbia on Caffeine

Everette and Mitchell are once again in BC working their buns off….and try and take time to visit family and a few friends.  Driving up island Everette got a visit in with his sister+  and then yesterday he was able to meet his mom and niece, Tasha….and if I say so myself, Grandma J looks happy to have some of her Boys around!  Everette is her only son; Mitchell, her eldest grandson….actually, our 3 boys are her only grandsons!


They picked a picture perfect day today for traveling BC Ferries to the mainland.  Work, and more work.  And then off to Portland and back to us.  Busy week for the guys.  But an hour+ of quiet on the lazy ferry, Everette gets his Canadian/ferry treat…..a Coffee Crisp.  However, I have a suspicion he’ll be a bit too jittery to just sit and read that Branson book!!!


Have I told you recently, Everette and Mitchell, how much we appreciate ALL you do for us?  All of your hard work  (and God-awful hours) to provide for us…..a Life We Enjoy!!  THANKS!!!!

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Tequila: Sandy y Daniel

I wrote a post about how Everette and I discovered Tequila Sandy y Daniel, and how Everette and Mark ended up going for el pajarete.  Now here’s more pics from the Tequila Fieldtrip!Collage Sandy y Daniel

Meet Sandy (left) and Daniel (right).  An unpresuming pair of guys who are making a mark in the tequila business here in Jalisco, the centre of tequila country.

Mark and Everette got a tour of Daniel’s family home, full of color, fun extravagance and playful (they have 3 little kids).  See the updated Blue Boy?  Just a sampling of fun stuff that abounds.Collage Kids stuffPics below are of the outside of their house, with a great view of Lake Chapala and a beautiful pool to dip in.  Outdoor living is easy here at the Lakeside where the weather is consistently warm (seldom hot nor cold) so this spacious outdoor space is luscious!

The pic on the bottom right is their view up towards us at Hotel Perico about 3 quarters the way up the hill, mostly hidden by vegetation.

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Are you aware of the regulations that not only go into selling the alcohol, but more importantly in the planting, growing & transporting of the plant material?  Every step of the process has to be documented, and ‘passports’ issued that limits the amount of plant material that a trucker can pick up/transport/deliver, all paperwork being verified from being picked up at the farm to checking in at the licensed facility in Tequila, Jalisco (that’s the city where Tequila supposedly originated….)

Sandy and Daniel have 9 fields of blue agave they are growing to produce tequila, on both the north and south side of Lake Chapala. They took Everette and Mark to their nearest one, not far at all from Hotel Perico, up a rough dirt road to the crest of the hill that overlooks the lake to the south.  They have a covered patio there where the sign (above photos) announces Tequila Sandy y Daniel, and they can take in the view of the lake below.

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Related to pineapple plants, the agave plant takes about 5 years to mature and sends shoots high into the air where their seed pods are harvested for future plants.  They must harvest the main body of the plant 2 years after sending out the shoot.  Each plant harvested weighs about 80 pounds, predominantly liquid.

A crew with a truck shows up to harvest a designated amount of plants which are issued a passport which must be carried on the designated vehicle and all paperwork must be available to be shown at all times: by authorities who may stop them on the highways; at the tequila plant, etc.

Sandy and Daniel chose 2 tequila ‘recipes’ from a variety of options at the distillery, choosing the flavor that was most appealing to them.  That recipe has won awards in the USA multiple times in the last 2 years alone….quite the success since they only started growing their plants about 9 years ago.  One recipe is white tequila, the other is a sipping tequila (gold) which they allow to sit in oak barrels for up to a year which allows it to carry the label Reposado.   They are endeavoring to make Anejo, which will be aged between a year and 3 years.  We wish them much success.

Pics below are of Sandy y Daniel tequila bottles, and the small collection of Everette’s shot glasses (and a boot that used to hold a glass but that one broke).  The two glasses on the right he had made to order, with little geckos inside.

Collage Tequila bottle